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Obeying Mother to Divorce Wife

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Sheikh Sulayman ar-RuhailyProfessor, Islamic University of Madinah
Description
A man married for ten years without children asks Sheikh Sulayman ar-Ruhaily about obeying his mother's demand to divorce his wife. The Sheikh provides detailed guidance on balancing parental obedience with marital rights in Islam.
Transcript 57 lines
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The questioner says: I've been married for ten years.

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And Allah has not granted me children.

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The medical tests for me and my wife are normal.

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But Allah's decree is greater. My question.

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What is the Islamic ruling on my mother asking me to divorce my wife?

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Allah be praised.

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It is in Allah's hands.

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And everything has its appointed term. And man does not know.

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And our brother, the questioner, mentioned they had medical tests.

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They were normal in the doctors' view.

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And hope is

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in Allah ﷻ.

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And we know many people.

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They got married, and nearly twenty years passed in their marriage.

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Then they were blessed with children.

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In fact, we know.

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Among scholars are those who reached sixty and had no children.

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And after sixty, he was granted a number of children.

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And this is Allah's decree; He carries it out as He wills.

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So my advice to the brother is to attach his heart to Allah.

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And that he should ask Allah ﷻ often to grant him offspring.

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And not leave him childless.

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As for the mother, she loves her son.

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And she wants what is best for him.

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And she wants to see him have children.

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And this love may lead her to what the brother mentioned.

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And my advice, if the wife is righteous.

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You should strive to please your mother and not divorce your wife.

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For obeying parents is not obligatory.

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In divorcing one's wife, except for a flaw in conduct or faith.

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And a man came to Imam Ahmad.

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He said, "My father orders me to divorce my wife, and she is fine."

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He said, "Do not divorce her." He said, "But Umar..."

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had ordered his son, Abdullah, to divorce his wife, so he did.

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He said, "If your father is like Umar."

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Umar (RA) only ordered him for a shar'i reason.

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So my advice, my brother, is to strive to please your mother.

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And lower to her the wing of humility, and humble yourself.

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And kiss her head, hands, and feet.

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And do not divorce your wife.

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And if you find no way to please your mother and see she's angry.

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So the advice is to favor the wife who has been your kind companion.

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And tell her that you want to marry another wife.

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So that you may keep her with you.

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So that no more pressure is put on you to leave her.

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And please the wife. And marry a second wife.

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And by Allah, I know a number of stories I have personally witnessed.

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A couple lived for over.

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...than seventeen years without children.

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So the man took another wife.

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Then both became pregnant together and both gave birth together.

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I know this exact case, and I know others like it too.

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Your marriage to another may be a cause.

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for having children by both wives.

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This is what I advise, while asking Allah first and last.

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to set your affairs right.

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and make your mother pleased with you. Yes.

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