Advice for Men Who Marry Then Divorce

What is your advice for the man who marries a woman, then divorces?

Or what we call a serial marrier?

Allah permitted it for a man.

That he may marry one wife, and that he may marry two wives.

He may marry three wives, or four.

So Allah ﷻ has permitted this for him.

But He also permitted him divorce.

But a man should...

He should not make people's honor a plaything.

He marries while intending to divorce.

Because he only wants to sample women.

Nor does he marry intending to stay with the woman.

Rather, he marries to divorce.

A year, two years, or less, then he divorces her to marry another.

And some of them boast, saying, “I married a hundred.”

I married seventy-something.

And this, in fact, is not proper.

Rather, it seems to me— and Allah knows best.

That it is not permissible for a man to marry intending divorce.

Rather, he must marry intending permanence.

So if a reason for divorce arises, then he may divorce.

That is because Islam forbade cheating in a heap of food.

So how can one imagine

Islam forbids deception in a pile of food.

and permits deception in matters of honor?

When a man comes to propose to a woman, planning to divorce her in a year or two.

This is deceit toward the woman and toward her guardian.

From another angle, a person does not like this for his daughters.

So how can he like this for the daughters of Muslims?

From another angle, there is harm in this.

If this man is among the students of knowledge.

Then this gives a bad image of the students of knowledge.

And makes people turn away from them.

And no one should cite some stories about some of the Salaf.

For these are exceptions to the rule. The principle

is respecting Muslims' honor, safeguarding it, not toying with it.

And when a person marries, he only does so.

intending it to last.

Then if things do not work out, and a reason for divorce is found.

Allah permitted divorce, and there is no power...

And no power except with Allah.

And my advice to Muslims: Be kind to women.

For it was advice from the Prophet ﷺ at the end of his life.

So we should uphold it and treat them well.

And honor them, for none honors them but a noble man.

And none demeans them but a vile man.

And my advice to women.

They should uphold men's rights.

And they should not restrict what Allah ﷻ has permitted.

For Allah ﷻ has given men permission.

To marry one woman, and to marry two.

And to marry three, and to marry four.

So a Muslim woman should not follow misleading dramas.

that portray this as a crime, betrayal, and a broken pledge.

For Allah only permitted it because of the good in it.

With everyone striving to show kindness.

And I ask Allah ﷻ to grant everyone goodness and guidance.